My heart aches for this little boy.
I first heard of him when a video was circulating on myspace about SBS prevention and was dedicated to him. Shaken Baby Syndrome. Those three words put together make me sick. He was an innocent little boy and how someone could change his whole life by losing patience is beyond grossening.
After watching the video on youtube, I found his mother’s myspace page and became obsessed with updates on his progress. It’s crazy how the internet can make you feel love, hope, sadness, fear for someone you have never met. He’s doing well, but it’s so sad to see this innocent beyond gorgeous little boy go through something that should have never happened.
The reason why I bring Kaleb’s story up is because of something that has been on my mind a lot lately and bothering me. Do we put too much information on the internet without realizing the repercussion that is may cause?
In my opinion, Kristy Schwade ( Kaleb’s mother) is a loving mother who in no way deserved what happened to her son. She’s an amazing woman who would go to to any lengths to do anything possible for her son.
There are others that don’t think the same way.
Mostly, because of a comment she left on her friend’s myspace a day or two before the shaking took place.
” He is sick AGAIN, I am so tired of the DRAMA”
That one comment has left many to believe the story is “fishy”.
Because of that one comment, some believe Kristy was a” young, fed up mother” that shook Kaleb herself and is using the babysitter as a scapegoat.
This whole story worries some, including me.
You have to watch what you say.
How horrible that because of that one line, many do not believe her story which seems completely true to me.
What is so wrong with what she said? She was a mother who needed to work. We all are upset when our children are sick. It most certainly is DRAMA when you have a job to show up to and have to deal with deciding to stay at home or leave your child with a sitter etc.
I have said far worse than when will the drama end? I’m sure I have written blogs, posted comments that included much worse things pertaining to motherhood and raising my kids.
It’s not always a walk in the park.
How can some judge her by that one comment.
I will be honest and say that since I caught up on all the “Kristy Bashers” and their reasoning based on that one comment, I have since watched the things I say that are open to the world to see.
Anything, ANYTHING can be used against you and it’s crazy.
We are on the internet. Nothing we say is private and everything we say, can and will be used against us.
To the people who doubt her-
If you are doubting a loving mother based on ONE comment she left to a friend that encompasses what motherhood is all about than you know nothing about being a mother or a human being for that matter.
Kristy Schwade was a normal mother saying something we all often say… When will it end? When will things be peachy? They’re not so peachy when they’re sick. . Get over it, you ridiculous morons.
I mean was she supposed to say, “He’s sick again, I’m having the time of my life!”.
Kristy Schwade, I think you are an amazing mother and I hope you have a wonderful Mother’s Day!
Pray for Kaleb.
May 10, 2008 at 12:02 pm
Mommy,
Thank you for posting this. I get google alerts and found this. I know a lot of people have taken that comment way out of context… I guess that is what happenes since I have never been able to sit back and tell the entire story from beginning to end. One of these days, soon, after the trial I will. I don’t worry about what other people say because I KNOW I didn’t do anything and when all the evidence and the story (not the media’s version)comes out people will realize what they have done to me and my family.
Thank you for understanding. I promise you that there is nothing fishy about that comment =) You are right, I never realized how HUGE this all would get and I am glad things have calmed down.
May 16, 2008 at 11:04 pm
Kristy, Thank you for taking the time to reply to my blog.
Keep us updated on your myspace with Kaleb’s progress. You are always in my thoughts and prayers.
May 25, 2008 at 8:23 pm
I have followed this story on MySpace from day 1 and it is very sad. The person who hurt Kaleb WILL pay, in one way or another.
Kristy, Please keep us updated on the trial. Thanks, ((((((HUGS)))))) Connie
August 22, 2008 at 9:59 pm
Why do I think the mother is guilty? Not just for the comment but because she has a PRIOR arrest for DOMESTIC VIOLENCE! Yes you read that right Kristy Schwade formerly Kristy Reynolds was arrested prior to her baby being shaken just prior to getting married to her now husband…Look into Hillsborough County Sheriffs Office and you can find that you can look her arrest up on there.
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August 25, 2008 at 12:35 pm
AJ, I will look into her arrest because it is interesting. I must disagree with your reasoning though. I understand that she was arrested for domestic violence, but it does not entail that she shook her baby.
August 25, 2008 at 9:58 pm
Both sides have some arrests records. Past doesn’t always mean present. As for the accused, I believe it was her at the time, Husband, who was arrested for domestic violence.
My whole point was how VERY involved people have gotten with this situation. It is sad … sad for the family of the VICTIM as they still await justice… whatever that will be and the accused is free in the meantime. What greatly disturbs me is some of the “facts” that have been dug up and thrown around by complete strangers. It is unreal.
August 28, 2008 at 10:50 am
I was wondering if there was any new updates on Kaleb. Do you know how he is doing? I hope the babysitter gets what’s coming to her. The poor babe and his family did not deserve any of this.
And for that comment, man, people shouldn’t hold that against her, I know I have said worse, alot worse. And my boys are alive and well and have never been harmed.
Kristy, forget the negative responses. Just focus on the positive. I pray Kaleb will be alright. And if the news about you having a second child is true, congratulations.
August 30, 2008 at 7:49 am
Kaleb is improving a lot. He has a long haul ahead of him but he’s doing a lot better than the MDs said (I won’t go into my opinion on doctors anyway!).
Kristy just had a baby Kaeson (sp??). The sitter was arrested for shoplifting recently too… and they are still awaiting the trial on the shaking.
September 4, 2008 at 3:49 pm
Someone dear to me had a fight with her husband. Neighbors called police and though their fight never got physical the police officer told her they “Had” to take some one in.
She voluntered ( I wouldn’t have) and she was booked on “Domestic Violence” charges.
I don’t know if her county Has to take someone in but they took her in.
She slept one night in jail and now has a record.
This was before they had kids and I would find it insane if they ever accused this loving mother of 5 of such a crime.
Insanity!!
Praying for Kaleb.
September 7, 2008 at 2:37 pm
I adore that poor boy yet even after all this time, I still have my doubts about the parents. i remember her old site and the pics she had hanging up in his PICU room..not 1 picture posted by the parents around his bed showed that baby smiling BEFORE any injury. I found and find the whole thing disturbing..now add a new baby. I do know more will be revealed.
September 7, 2008 at 10:04 pm
I’m starting to feel like Kristy’s advocate, but do understand I just state the truth about things.
There are PLENTY pics of Kaleb smiling before his injury. You can see some posted on Kristy’s myspace page.
Also, u have to take into consideration that kaleb was only 7months old when he was shaken. I have to tell you- I don’t have tooo many pics of neither of my sons smiling at that age. Of course I have plenty, but I also have plenty of them just interested in the camera, checking it out- like what the heck is that thing and how do I get a hold of it kind of faces! You know just wandering into the lens type of pics.
You can have your doubts. I am not against that. But, please know your facts. Kristy did have pictures of Kaleb smiling and the others where he’s not- he seems healthy and happy.
Thank you again for visiting my page and commenting.
September 23, 2008 at 5:51 pm
I was wondering if anyone had any updates on Kaleb and his family. I’m very interested in his recovery and if there has been any developments in the case against the babysitter. Kristy’s myspace page is set to private understandably so i can’t see her blogs and updates on Kaleb. I was just wondering if there was another site that had any information. My prayers are always with this precious little boy and his family and i would just like to see how he’s doing.
November 3, 2008 at 10:52 am
I followed Kaleb’s story on MySpace until the page went private. I still check up on him with Google searches when I think about him. Only Kaleb truly knows who shook him, and I’m sure he does not remember. I just hope that the person who shook him is brought to justice. If justice does not prevail, KARMA will!
November 7, 2008 at 2:02 pm
For those of you wondering, Kaleb is doing much better than expected. He is somewhat still blind, but can see shapes, movements. I dont know Kristy personally but I have heard of this story from day one, and I believe that she did not do anything except be a mother. What I still don’t understand is how people can be so quick to judge. All the negative comments have been ignored for the simple fact that she does not have time to sit here and read about how she is a horrible mother and how she doesn’t care about her son when clearly she does. In time we will be able to see who was telling the truth, but my money is on Kristy. The fact that she was arrested for domestic violence is 1: not relevant, and 2: in florida if theres a domestic dispute, someone is going to jail. no matter what. so since her husband had a great job, and she didnt, it was only fair to have him not lose his! Keep in mind that she has a second child, and the love is obvious! I doubt that she would have done that to Kaleb! Thanks…
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Christy Olivares
November 17, 2008 at 10:08 pm
Why would you assume it is the husband of the babysitter because he has a domestic violence arrest? Kristy also has a domestic violence arrest. It was not one isolated comment that makes me think Kristy did this to her son. It is a lot of little things that add up to a big doubt in my mind. For one,before she received so much attention,her page was decorated with drug backgrounds and she and her friends discussing extacy(sp?the drug)parties. She was pregnant and her husband didn’t want her to go because he didn’t think it was safe. Kristy used money donated to Kalebs medical fund for a house. She hints anytime she wants something new(aka a laptop,camera,etc)she even blogged about how she had to go to the post office to pick up her donations and was late getting to the hospital before Kaleb had surgery and only got to see him a few minutes. She is a classic attention seeker and should be checked for Munchausen by proxy. I wonder if her new son will stay sick too. According to her myspace Kaleb was in the hospital quite a bit before the SBS.
November 19, 2008 at 2:59 am
I have been watching this story and it has touched me in so many ways. I take care of other people’s children and have one of my own. If a child is sick especially the way it has been explained on many reports, I would immediately call the police or an ambulance. She did nothing. She is guilty and the fact that one comment was made, I say things all the time and I don’t mean them in my heart. It is sad that she is being ridiculed so harshly. She loves that little boy and did not hurt him……My prayers are with you Kaleb.
November 20, 2008 at 9:57 am
I just wanted to let everyone know we won’t have to many updates because Kristy can’t talk about to much while the trial is going on. I will say the family is doing well and holding up best they can under the circumstances. It is very hard to rehash this long after and thanks to the defense dragging this out, all parties will be suffering a long time. I will not divulge to much as Kristy made her page private for a reason and she is my friend on Myspace. I must respect her privacy there.
Just please hold your tongue’s until you know more. Information will be public when it can be. Don’t judge Kristy or Rebecca until this is over. I have my own personal opinion, but I also have taken the time to get to know Kristy and her husband. Pray for justice and leave everything else alone. Don’t bring this family more stress.
February 12, 2009 at 10:42 pm
Kaleb had very severe brain damage. One would have to shake a baby of his age VERY vigorously in order to cause that kind of damage. A shaking that hard would’ve also resulted in other bodily injury, including a broken neck.
So I don’t think he was shaken at all. He was very sick several days before she finally took him to the hospital. The brain damage could’ve been a result of a high fever that went untreated. There are also many cases in which too many vaccinations too early, out of control viruses, and unexplainable disabilities are mistaken for SBS.
Some have brought up the idea that Kristy used ecstacy during pregnancy. I do not know whether this is true and have no way of verifying it, but, if it is true, it’s very possible this came as a result of that.
Overall, I do not think he was shaken, by either Kristy or Rebecca. I think this came as a result of something medical that may or may not have had the possibility of being prevented.
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